2 Big reasons why you feel bad about yourself and how to fix it.

The 2 big reasons you feel bad about yourself and how to fix it.

This will not apply to everyone, but 10 to 1 you will find some of you in this article. 

1. You bad talk yourself. 

You know what I'm talking about, you step in front of the mirror and immediately go at yourself.  "Oh, look at my tummy its so big and gross!", "I have stretchmarks on my thighs, my arms are so flabby", etc etc etc

Fix.

STOP. When you find that you start putting yourself down, STOP! Then Reverse, reverse! Say it out loud to yourself. Seriously! Say what you do love. For instance, ... "I love my legs", then say something about them not related to appearance, because really, that's not all there is too you. "I love my long legs because  I can run fast with them!"  "My stretchmarks are from my daughter/son and reminds me of how much my body took care of them for 9 months" Whatever it is, make it a positive! Want to know mine? I have extra skin on my Tummy from my weight loss. It may or may not go away. At first I hated it, but now I remind myself that the extra skin I see is because my body is doing what I asked it to do. Be more healthy, have a smaller waist measurement etc. I see that extra skin as a victory!

  

2. You bad talk others.

OMFG. Fucking stop it. Seriously. I'm so sick of girls bad talking other people. Online, in public, to their friends, to strangers... No wonder you feel like people are talking about YOU. Because you do, don't you? I mean after all, that's what makes us self conscious. The thought of other people judging us. Right? How many times did you think. Oh, I shouldn't wear this, people might... *insert worried thought about people judging you here*. You are doing something called self projecting. You are putting your insecurities out there, and thinking that people feel that way about you, when in reality, they're probably too worried about themselves to even notice you.
Fix.
Stop being a troll. Its pretty easy. If you don't have anything nice to say about someone, then do us all a favor and shut up. Instead of looking at people and saying "OMG, she should NOT be wearing that" or whatever random snarky opinion you think of, look at them and COMPLIMENT THEM. "Wow, She looks great in that outfit, I want her confidence!" Then all of a sudden you realize that hey, maybe people are saying NICE things about me. Are they? You'll probably never know. If we got everyone in the world to be aware that everyone has feelings and saying rude shit is hurtful, its be a much nicer place, but the reality is there will always be some asshole that is going to say or do something that's not nice. The way YOU can control that is to have it in YOUR head that instead of people talking poorly about you, that they are actually taking you up, and all of a sudden you will walk with more confidence and feel much better about yourself, and in turn, people will see you as a confidant person, and confidence if fucking sexy. You know whats not sexy? Girls that dog other girls looks, morals or whatever it might be. Its GROSS and IMMATURE. If you find yourself doing it stop and think to yourself "Why do I find it necessary to say that?" More than likely you will come back with the answer that goes back to "self projection", in other words, you are calling out flaws that you find in yourself that bother you. Think about that...

Here's a nice little article (written by a brilliant person) that I LOVE too. take the time to read it

Why I dont hate "skinny" women 

and a final thought

 Stop basing your worth as a person on your appearance.

There is much more to you than looks and besides, you are the sexiest you out there and they're are reasons why others will never be as awesome as YOU. Write down your positive qualities, both physical and non physical. I bet you come up with more than you think! Have you're friends help too! Ask them what they like about you. You might just be surprised! Keep them and read them often. :)